I think for me it had more to do with the idea that if all my eggs weren't in one basket, I'd have less to lose if I dropped some of them (and I felt like dropping them would be inevitable at the time, in no small part because I felt unlovable and I felt that that perceived "fact" had been validated by the constant slough of failed relationships trailing behind me)--but that definitely isn't the case for everybody :) just my personal experience!